Why Adult Gamers Get Such a Bad Rap

Gamers. By itself, it’s a word that innocently names people who play games. But who would you call a gamer? Somebody who plays fantasy football? Poker? Pokemon? Chess? More than likely, if you call someone a gamer it’s probably because they play tabletop, computer, or video games on a regular basis.

Do you want to be called a “gamer?”

If you’ve avoided the label, you’re not alone. While I don’t have the stats to say for sure, it’s not uncommon for me to meet so-called “closet gamers,” which are people who enjoy the occasional game ( or play the Nintendo Wii which some don’t consider to be true gaming ) but don’t really want to be lumped in with the stereotypes.

Gamers often get bad reputations because really gaming is about having fun and escaping the real world. That’s scary to a lot of people, because we’re trained to work and be productive. Games, cartoons, comics, and anime are supposed to be for kids, right? Never mind the success of Sin City, Resident Evil IV the video game, or Blood: the Last Vampire anime. Even though there are dozens of examples of adult-themed media that are out on the market, I often get the impression that society infers individual examples are okay as long as they are popular. A well-loved comic book like the Dark Tower series by Stephen King is then “socially acceptable” because it’s an exception—not the rule.
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What to Expect from Gaming and SciFi Conventions When You’re Speaking

Thanks to everyone who recommended RSS feeds for me; I’m going through the list and love the recommendations. This next post was inspired by a question from Facebook; it was such a great one I wanted to write about it so everyone could read it.

So you’ve come to a milestone in your writing career; either you’ve published a book or designed a few games and someone has noticed your product. Congratulations! You’ve been asked to be a part of their gaming, science fiction or similar convention. Never been to one before? Piece of cake!

Before you Go

The benefits to speaking at cons are pretty easy to see. You can develop relationships with new readers, fellow authors and promote a few of the other pros that have helped you along the way. Before you hop in your car, keep in mind that when you do go to a con (no matter how big or how small) you’re representing yourself as the “creative face” behind your product. That creative face becomes your persona, something that you can use as a promotional tool both on-and-offline.

Before you book your trip, you might want to ask a few questions:

  • How much of my expenses (convention pass, food, hotel, etc.) will be covered?
  • Will I have space in the dealer’s area to sell my books? Will I be charged for that?
  • Will I have the opportunity to perform an author reading for my book?
  • What type of speaking will I be expected to do? Panels, workshops, monologues, roundtables?
  • What is the expected attendance of the con? Hours?
  • Will there be any media coverage?
  • Do I have any other responsibilities as a guest or speaker?

Depending upon the size of the engagement, you may run into a situation where the environment is smaller and more focused, so you’ll have more one-on-one time with the people there. Generally speaking, the larger the con the more professional it gets. GenCon Indy, for example, has a Press Room but more often than not this seems to be the exception rather than the rule.

The most common type of speaking engagement at a con is a panel-based structure with a moderator. Featured speakers often provide a fully-developed, professional speech in a monologue format during key moments of the con.

As A Speakers or Guest

As a convention guest or speaker, you have a behind-the-scenes look at the fan culture. Many of the attendees that go to these cons are rabid readers and collectors, who follow authors religiously. In my experiences, there are often very knowledgeable attendees that are truly passionate about what they’re into. If you are not into gaming or science fiction or fantasy, be transparent with your potential readers. In my opinion, there is absolutely nothing a fan loves more than to tell you why they love Firefly or Babylon 5. To navigate around unfamiliar territory, many conventions will post their schedule online: I highly recommend either renting, playing, or learning a little bit about some of the events you might be interested in before you go. While you would not be obligated to be accessible 24-7 for the entire convention, appearing stand-offish because you’re uncomfortable in a room full of World of Darkness fans might end up giving people the wrong message.

Your first con might be a little overwhelming, but as you keep doing them you’ll find you can develop techniques to be professional, polite, and entertain your audience. Like most things, it takes work because there will be things you enjoy and things you don’t. A lot is riding on how well the convention planning holds when the day arrives. Take it from someone who has mentored others on running cons: it’s a lot of work. If something gets screwed up because your event was delayed or the room’s not perfect, be gracious. There is nothing worse than an unhappy guest in the middle of a busy con.

As an Attendee

So what does actually happen at a con? Well, if you’re going to something that involves gaming, there will be game demos–usually in blocks of time–that people may be pre-registering for. You might see a bunch of folk rolling dice or running down the hallways with feathery hats and leather vests; a lot of different kinds of games are played at gaming conventions. Sometimes sign-up for gaming is free, sometimes it’s not, so coordinate your schedule if you’d like to play.

You’ll probably see a variety of attendees dressed up in various costumes; dubbed “cosplay” there are some folk who enjoy donning a well-designed costume to support their favorite character. Age will vary from con to con, depending upon the games available and the events. Other events might include contests and awards, celebrity signings, a dealer’s room and/or art show, room parties, seminars, interviews, charity tournaments or auctions. Attendees often gauge what events they participate in based on their intent for attending the con; people are either finding work, having fun, reconnecting with old friends, networking, speaking, or are simply curious about what all the fuss is about.

Special note: Many of this year’s conventions will offer memoriams to one of the founding fathers of gaming, Gary Gygax. Be sure, if you are a speaker this year at a gaming con, to attend at least one of them.

Help me Out Here: What Industry RSS Feeds/Blogs/Sites are you Reading?

Hi everyone, just last week I was tipped off to a great new RSS feed aggregator tool that is more addicting than…well…cheesy nachos. (Only real cheese will do.) Once I have a chance to get it all set up, I’ll post about it with examples.

In the meantime, because this wondrous tool will allow me to separate out my RSS feeds by category, I am in sheer heaven. I noticed, however, that my RSS feeds for other authors, publishing houses, and industry blogs are sadly lacking. Can you help my lonely RSS feed reader? If you have the time, I’d really appreciate it if you left a comment on this post to promote your site, someone else’s site, or tell me what I should avoid.

Thanks (in advance). Happy feeding?!?! Er… Happy RSSeeding?!?

You know what I mean. 😉

How to Ruin your Online Reputation in 10 Easy Steps

Are you concerned whether or not you’ll get hired in the future? Wondering if a potential date will Google your name? Don’t care whether or not there might be legal repercussions to what you say? Well, great! If you don’t care what people read about you online, then you’re well on your way to ruining your online reputation. Here’s my top ten tips for tanking your online reputation indefinitely:

(1) Become a Member of the Grammar Police: Remember to correct grammar and spelling in every post, email, and comment you read–even people that have established reputations. Everybody loves to be corrected on their English, don’t you? Not only will you get the reputation as a know-it-all, but you’ll also be quickly recognized as a major pain-in-the-butt. Or, if you so choose, remember the phrase “when in Rome” and post exclusively in txt, LOL or l33t-speak.

(2) Take Credit for Other People’s Work: Feel free to avoid referencing, linking or crediting the content you’re publishing on your own site. Sure, there’s so much content on the internet that no one will ever know if you plagiarize, right? And who knows? Other people may notice what you’ve done and start talking about it. Free publicity!

(3) Claim you’re an Expert on Everything (Even When You’re Not One): Be sure to speak to your vast and impressive background of experiences whenever possible. This is especially true if you don’t have any experiences (or proof) that you are knowledgeable in the subject you’re talking about.

(4) Be “the” Internet War Guru: Start flame wars by calling a fellow poster an [insert word] here. The fastest way to tank your reputation online is to start an argument with someone over the [topic of your choice], so start early and fight often. Forum posts and email are great vehicles for flame wars, because other people who don’t even belong to the forums (or know you personally) can read what you wrote. Fantastic!

(5) Put Other People Down to Get Visits: Promote your site and get more traffic by telling other people how much they suck. This is a great way to get traffic to your own site. Simply, all you have to do is comment on as many blogs and websites as possible, trashing what they’ve done and telling people where they should go–to your domain.
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Feminism in Sci Fi, Fantasy and Horror?

Feminism. Never mind that the word conjures up images of women burning bras or screaming their support for Hillary Clinton. Never mind that some people think of feminists as “man-haters” who promote only women and therefore, have to be lesbians. Forget all of that and instead, regard the word for what it truly represents: addressing issues of gender difference and equality.

Why do I bring this up and how does it relate to writing genre or gaming fiction?

If you remember when I first signed up for the WisCon convention, I was a little unclear what my experience might be because I had never been to a “feminist” convention before. Reading through the really well-designed materials that were mailed to me, I came across two items that stood out. One is the James Tiptree Jr. Award according to the program which, every year, is given to the work(s) of science fiction and fantasy that best “explore and expand gender roles.” The other is a site called Broad Universe, dubbed the ‘voice’ for women writing science fiction, fantasy and horror.

At first, I wondered why I had never heard of these sites or awards. Then, I realized how important they just might be.

I’ve talked about tropes before when I covered posts like, “How to infuse your Creativity by Researching Myths, Tropes and Beliefs.”. In that post, I talk about Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings (LoTR) and its treatment of race, but we can also look at his female characters. On the one hand, we have Arwen (who went through quite a bit of suffering in the book) and on the other we have Eowyn (who’s definitely a heroine). Finished in 1949 but published in 1954, to some the tome represents the “birth” of modern fantasy. It’s easy to see how feminism can fit into fantasy, because there are often dozens of tropes that come into play, like the large-breasted, beautiful female who needs to be rescued or the virgin princess who has to be sacrificed. In science fiction and horror, popular culture offers different treatments of the “feminine ideal” as well, and I’m sure you can come up with several examples of your own.

As a female who writes genre and gaming fiction, my direct intent is not to analyze every character, scene or setting to explore gender, racism, religion or any other form of discrimination but I do consider these things in the back of my mind, provided it is an integral part of my story. If it makes sense for a character to be a jerk, then he (or she) is a jerk. If it fits the setting that this particular group of people, who lives around a mysterious artifact, are extremely close-minded with their beliefs, then they will be.

I’m not sure if it’s a function of the type of writer that I am or not, but I often do a lot of research, reading and theorizing before I put words together on a page. If I have a “goal” with my work, it’s to explore three-dimensional characters who may or may not understand the “whys” behind what they do but you, as a reader, might see it for yourself. Frankly, I’m not sure how my writing would evolve if I put a concept like “feminism” at the forefront of my work, but I recognize and appreciate that it needs to be there to provide writers (and readers) with a vehicle to address hefty topics that influence us as people every day.

My biggest take-a-way from thinking about feminism in science fiction, fantasy and horror is that I recognize there’s a lot I don’t know about it. I plan on seeking out some of the writers on the Broad Universe site to review their books as time allows, and hope that will give me a better understanding of what these authors do.

What are some of your experiences with feminism in science fiction, fantasy and horror? Is this something that you feel is an issue? Not an issue? Why?

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