Best Explanation on Being an Introvert

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I’m a huge fan of the TED Talks and hope to attend this conference some day. I’ve talked about how writing is an introverted activity and often the complaint I hear is about how not all writers are introverts. This? This isn’t a reaction to what I or others have said. This is a response to the social stigma that being an introvert means that somehow that person is wrong or bad or physically broken.

Watch Susan Cain talk about the power of introverts. Her new book is called “Quiet.”

Susan also shares an anecdote where she’s made decisions that she wasn’t comfortable with just to be socially-accepted without even realizing it. Boy, that sounded familiar. I hope you’ll find inspiration from her work if you are struggling with these stigmas. Sometimes, all it takes is to be in the wrong job or relationship to feel like an idiot. Other times? One kind word, one reassuring statement, will make you feel a whole lot better. I consider myself one of the lucky ones. 🙂

    Mood: It’s Monday. ‘Nuff said.
    Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: Ignoring the caff-o-meter.
    Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: Pillow. Head. Pillow. Head.
    Yesterday’s Projects: Juggling
    In My Ears: Nothing.
    Game Last Played: Grepolis
    Movie Last Viewed: Hrmmm…
    Book Last Read: Double hrmmm…
    Latest Artistic Project: Crystal cluster bracelet in silver
    Latest Release: Strange, Dead Love for Vampire: the Requiem

Yes, Rhetoric’s the Thing

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The other night when I was editing I watched In Search of Shakespeare, a four-part documentary about “the” bard. I was reminded of his political work when the narrator talked about what Shakespeare had to deal with. In his era, plays were put on for the people to sway public opinion of the King or Queen. That important detail is relevant when we see his plays and one that is often missed because his politics don’t resonate with our modern times. When William wrote King Lear or penned descriptions of King Henry, he was tapping into British history to write commentary about his ruler at a time when it was very dangerous to do so. Back then, people were beheaded. He didn’t have the luxury of free speech as we do now.

In our society, we don’t have Shakespeare’s plays to affect our opinions. We have Beck and Limbaugh. Colbert and Stewart. Maher and Moore. Palin and Coulter. We have news sources that provide editorials and little-to-no facts, that get us riled up, that spew falsehoods to upset the common man and woman. Why?

Well, the answer to that question should be self-explanatory but from what I’ve been seeing the past couple of weeks, it’s really not. Rhetoricians play to the crowd in order to get an emotional reaction. They don’t care about reporting the truth because all-too-often the reality of what they’re talking about isn’t that upsetting. They put a spin on something as mundane as prescription birth control to talk about foul temptresses (e.g. women). They put it in terms designed to get our dander up and piss us off. And, in an era of twenty-four hour communication, these efforts work.

In short, people like Limbaugh and Beck are trying to get our attention by manipulating our emotions on a certain topic. (Colbert and Stewart, on the other hand, have filled the role of the Court’s Fool.) This technique is designed to influence public opinion to put pressure on political leaders.

Have you heard an impassioned speech that describes how we must be vigilant before we lose our rights? (Ironic, given what rights we lost with the Patriot Act.) Often, the speeches sound heartfelt and beautiful and appealing to us — because they are. What those rhetoricians are expressing taps into our faith in America as an ideal. If someone from any party believes their rights are being taken away, or their religious freedoms are being trampled upon, there is nothing (and I mean nothing) anyone can say or do to convince them otherwise.

As every rhetorician, politician, and religious leader knows: faith is the one argument that the speaker cannot lose. It doesn’t matter where that faith is placed – country, God, family, love, sparkly vampires, whatever – once you or I believe in something, it’s very hard to talk us down from that ledge because our hearts have taken over. Logic is out the proverbial window because it we believe we are being persecuted on a personal level by a government that has laws in place for millions of people? Then it must be so.

We’ve (myself included) all been “taken in” by the rhetoric because these narratives tell a story that appeals to our emotions. In some cases, it’s hard to think rationally or slow down because at that point we have already punched our fists into the air, called people horrible names, shared the rhetoric because we’re so, so, angry and we want a solution. This is entirely natural. This is because the rhetorician has done their job and he (or she) has done it so well we need to talk about it, share it, and digest it. By doing so, we wind up becoming the rhetorician who is also swaying public opinion and contributing to the drama.

Like plays from centuries past, the teleplay is also intentional. Unlike Shakespeare’s time, however, our rhetoricians don’t hide behind stage sets and elaborate costumes. We think what they’re doing is real because they present themselves as the truth or non-fiction. Spin, regardless of what you may think, is fiction. It is, because it takes a mundane fact (or series of them) and blows a topic way, way out of proportion to tell a story. This, to be blunt, is a form of reality television. Is your life that dramatic and compelling to watch? Now add a camera and a script. See what happens when viewers and advertising dollars are at stake.

Again, rhetoricians have a job to do and often they don’t believe what they’re saying. Their job is to sway how we feel on a topic in the hopes that the policy makers will be affected by what we think and we will show our support by how we vote. The more outrageous they get, the more they tap into bullying tactics, the greater the reaction they’re shooting for. Sometimes, they do this to distract us from an issue we should be upset about; other times, to make sure their names are recognized and shared and they continue to have listeners and viewers.

Truthfully, the only way to get to the bottom of what’s happening is to become involved on a level where you can affect the policies made. This, quite frankly, is why a lot of the conservative rhetoric is happening now because that base is the one who not only votes, but donates to campaigns, too. Pissed off what Stewart or Maher or Limbaugh or Beck said? Stop watching. Stop talking about it. Stop giving them the reaction they want and vote what you believe or get involved more heavily on the policy-making side. It’s that simple.

However you look at it: the crowd has power and every writer – reporter, novelist, playwright, scriptwriter, editor, speechwriter – knows that. The King has very little power. The crowd, made up of readers and listeners and viewers, has it all because what leaders fear is not the crowd, but the angry mob. Though ignoring the crowd has its advantages, too, there’s no mistaking the power of like-minded people.

    Mood: Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
    Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: I shall consume mass quantities of rocket fuel. NOM NOM NOM.
    Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: Housework, rolling dice, and editing.
    Yesterday’s Projects: Several
    In My Ears: Beyond the Wasteland, Final Fantasy VII
    Game Last Played: Grepolis
    Movie Last Viewed: Hrmmm…
    Book Last Read: Double hrmmm…
    Latest Artistic Project: Crystal cluster bracelet in silver
    Latest Release: Strange, Dead Love for Vampire: the Requiem

Redwing’s Gambit Debuts at Balticon

I will be attending Balticon in Baltimore, Maryland from May 25th through the 28th. Over Memorial Day weekend I’ll be celebrating the release of Redwing’s Gambit, a science-fiction novella I wrote for the Bulldogs! RPG published by Galileo Games.

For more about Redwing’s Gambit and this appearance, please visit:

  • The Daily Illuminator: Balticon and Redwing’s Gambit
  • Redwing’s Gambit announced at Galileo Games
  • Redwing’s Gambit Cover Art Revealed!

  • Sensationalism and Newstainment

    I wrote part of this post when I was on my way to New York. Somewhere along the way, in a haze of nigh zero caffeination, I had a couple of very deep thoughts. My hobby anthropologist has kicked in and well… I guess I had to get this concept out of my system.

    We do not have news anymore. We have newstainment. Many reporters are actors in disguise who have a job to do to keep people interested twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. We comment on what they look like, what they’re wearing, and focus on their appearance moreso than what they’re spewing. When something is incorrect, we reprimand them on our own social networks, but we keep watching. We keep listening. We keep feeding that fire.

    The constant flood of communication is beginning to take its toll. Everything that you see and hear about now is not new. It’s not. What is new, however, is the fact that people who previously had no idea what policies, laws, or acts were being discussed now have access to that information. This, moreso than any devious set of people trying to push through their agenda, is what pisses people off.

    For decades, we have been consumers of news. We have reacted to news when it happened. We trusted reporters to find the truth, to report what was valuable and what we needed to know. We were not subject to every piece of news that ever existed. Now? The tables have completely turned and we, the people, are creating the news and its the networks that are trying to catch up. To get us to listen to them again, the news feeds hit us where it count — our anger, our rage, and our sadness — to force a reaction. To get us to pay attention, so they can stay in business. And it works.

    Sensationalist (or tabloid) journalism is a tactic to get readers and viewers. However, this is not (and will not) always be the case. We are reaching the tipping point where viewers and readers are exhausted from yet another fight, yet another battle. This is why you see the so-called culture wars that exist right now. It’s a combination of crappy reporting and too much communication combined with fear. While there are some issues that are very real, like how our society is coming to grips with the fact that love is love and isn’t defined anymore between a man and a woman, others are completely fake or based on old assumptions and paranoia.

    People don’t like change. People never will embrace it, either. There will always be a hot button issue that will create strife among our society and there will always be oppression. Always. Right now, we do not have the tools to help our society transition to one of tolerance. We don’t. Why?

    It goes back to sensationalism. With so much to scream and yell and shake our fist at — how do we know what is real and what isn’t? Scary thought, eh? Now, add censorship on top of that.

    Congratulations, you’ve just entered into a daymare I’ve had.

      Mood: Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
      Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: I shall consume mass quantities of rocket fuel. NOM NOM NOM.
      Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: Housework and painting.
      Yesterday’s Projects: Several
      In My Ears: Industrial
      Game Last Played: Grepolis
      Movie Last Viewed: Hrmmm…
      Book Last Read: Double hrmmm…
      Latest Artistic Project: Crystal cluster bracelet in silver
      Latest Release: Strange, Dead Love for Vampire: the Requiem

    Three Pie-in-the-Sky Writing Goals

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    I may be a pragmatist (though that moniker is already taken by the Practical Meerkat) but there’s no shame in dreaming. Here are three of my pie-in-the-sky things I’d love to happen some day. You know, besides becoming that novelist who owns a multi-million dollar franchise. (Yeah, there’s only three today… I have several, but I’m playing around with the first two as we speak… ) First? Publish an official Hellboy story. Second? Publish an official Star Wars story from a Sith’s point-of-view. And third?

    Listen to Christopher Walken read one of my stories. (Second on my list would be Gabriel Byrne. You know, *if* I had a choice. :D) For a taste of what the actor sounds like, listen to Christopher Walken reading Where the Wild Things Are.

    Hat tip to Brain Pickings for alerting her readers to this little gem.

      Mood: Yes… and?
      Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: Cutting back and it hurts us.
      Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: Walk
      Yesterday’s Projects: La, la, la. Not keeping track. In the land of “Do.”
      In My Ears: Forgot to turn the music on.
      Game Last Played: Final Fantasy XIII-2 the bestest game evah!
      Movie Last Viewed: Bah, humbug.
      Book Last Read: Reading like a crazy woman! There’s a pile on ze floor.
      Latest Artistic Project: Crystal cluster bracelet in silver
      Latest Release: Strange, Dead Love for Vampire: the Requiem
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