Business 101: Building Core Competency

Today, cats and kittens… I am going to talk about your core competency. No, this is not about your platform persay. This is about what service you are going to perform, what Art you will create, that people will spend money on.

Take a deep breath. Okay? Seriously. Here are some things to consider when you’re figuring out whatever it is you want to do underneath the umbrella of “writer.”

No amount of internet popularity will do you a damn bit of good unless you have something to back it up. Oh my stars, can we stop with the plugging the same book over and over and over again? Really, folks. If you’re reading this post, then you’re probably concerned about building a business. You absolutely cannot write the one book, throw it up on Amazon.com, and call it a day if you expect to pay your bills off of—

—what, exactly? Now, I know that some of you are very concerned about Facebook likes, Twitter followers, etc. Ten years, ten years of ecommerce and online marketing later, and I can tell you this is a trap. “Celebrity,” in terms of writers, means different things to different people — but it’s not a guarantee that you’ll find/get work or have people buy your books because people perceive you are popular. For your career, consider that popularity is determined by book sales, not necessarily by online chatter or awards. What I’m suggesting, is that you take a peek at your business from the foundation, not from the top floor which is marketing and publicity and the tactics you can take to boost your own signal.

This is where I see most new writers go wrong, because you fall into the trap of believing everything you read, because you don’t see the marketing that writer/person is doing to you. Then what happens, is you think that in order to sell books and get work, you have to start marketing right out of the gate. If you do not have a core competency, this removes time away from learning and can work against you when you have to deliver. Writing advice? Most times, this is marketing — especially if that person has novels or other works to sell. Yes, I’m a consultant as one aspect of my business, but I’m also not out there pounding the pavement for that every day. That is not what I want to be when I grow up but rather something to fall back on.

What is it that you do exactly? Short stories? Press releases? Novels? And what is it that people are buying or hiring you for? Ah, grasshopper. Here’s the conundrum, right? Because new writers don’t “get” to write a novel and make enough to earn a living right out of the gate. This can happen, it doesn’t mean it’s going to happen to you. Even then, writing novels as a core competency requires a different set of skills than short stories or press releases.

Say you want to build a career off of short stories. Okay, let’s say it takes you one week to write, revise, and polish a 3,000 word story. You still have to sell that, and that doesn’t happen overnight. Now, if you get the minimum rate, which is five cents a word, you’ll earn $150 before taxes. Let’s assume there’s a two week turnaround for rejection and you sell 40% of the stories you submit. So of those 52 stories you write in a year, you sell twenty of them. Math-wise, this now equates to a whopping $3,000 before taxes.

Of course there are variables and levers to push and pull, but the reason why I talked about the example above is because I’m trying to show you that building your core competency may not be enough to earn a living. (This is why I opt to have diverse income streams and work on multiple projects. Other writers feel pressured to write more and publish frequently for precisely this reason, to make more money.) Even if you become known as a short story writer, that doesn’t mean you’re going to be rolling in the dough. Over time, you can resell your stories depending upon what rights you own or you can open up a small press — but self-publishing isn’t a guarantee either. You need to sell a LOT of copies to even earn out that first $150, and believe me, the average self-publisher is not making that much on their short stories, not even their novels.

I recommend that your core competency should be built around skills like:

  • Productivity – How many words can you write? Of those words, which are publishable on average? What’s your writing speed? Revisions speed?
  • Discipline – You must write because you have to, not because you want to, and not when a magical spirit muse shows up.
  • Quality Control – Revisions, research, drafts, etc. You know your own process best. Even if you self-publish, you are doing yourself a HUGE disservice if you don’t proofread and spellcheck your work.
  • Flexibility – Your book gets canceled, the editor’s role changes, your payment is delayed. When plans go awry, can you maneuver and adjust?
  • Resource Management – This is about survival. Can you make those hard decisions to do what needs to be done? Do you have resources available to you that you can rely on when the worst thing happens?

I feel that competency should then be developed around what you want to be when you grow up. Assign percentages to what you can do to earn money as a writer ranked according to what you like doing, what you don’t, and what jobs you can get. If you want to write novels, then build your core and long-term goals around writing novels.

The thing is, though, is that you have to figure out how in the heck you are going to be able to earn money while developing that core competency. I cannot tell you how many working writers I know who don’t write novels full-time (myself included at the moment) because it either doesn’t pay enough, or writing the damn thing takes time out of creating something else that’s earning you more money.

Obviously, earning out on a novel (or several of them) and building a career doesn’t happen overnight. Bills come every month. Healthcare is NOT cheap. Kids? Families? Friends? It all adds up and it’s not as simple as “make the time.” Sure, that’s true, but if you have a healthy business going, then anything new that comes in should be weighed against your long-term and short-term goals.

By having a clear picture of “this is what I do,” then your goals are measurable, quantifiable, attainable. Without that core concept, though, it’s very hard to determine what “x” is.

Tomorrow, I’ll talk about sample goals for short-and-long term career paths.

Business 101: Day Two a Chat about Appearances and Fandom

Okay, so yesterday’s post about Smashing Assumptions was published early due to a WordPress snafu. Apologies for that! So now I am ahead of schedule.

Today, I’m going to talk to you about appearances and how they impact your business. I’m going to start with an anecdote. Oh, shit. (Deep breath.) Here goes:

It’s GenCon in Indianapolis. The year is around 2004 or so. I attend the GenCon Writer’s Symposium. Never freelanced before, but I have demoed games. On Saturday, I am dressed in a full on goth outfit: shock red hair, shiny latex pants, tight T-shirt, high-heeled combat boots. (Epic, I know.) I am walking down the halls of GenCon to avoid traffic with my new boyfriend, Matt. There is a mechanical spider in the hallway. Meaning… No, really. Somebody created a mechanical spider. From scratch. I squee. MASSIVE BRAIN POWER, YO. Ask to see it. Bend down. Lift back up and a name badge is now the first thing that I see.

It’s Timothy Zahn. I am staring at his chest.

I stand up and am now extraordinarily, painfully aware of said garments. Folks, my ass was shiny. No matter, I attempt to own it by acting like a professional. I think I’m doing all right, and then my primordial brain takes over:

“Dumbass. This is Timothy Zahn. You’ve read how many Star Wars extended universe books? Your childhood was defined by Star Wars and The Muppets and PBS, etc. you idiot. Splinter of the Mind’s Eye was how important to you? This is the guy who’s in charge of YOUR CHILDHOOD, coordinating with dozens and dozens of people to ensure that great stories are being told and shared, to preserve this amazing legacy. He must be a super-genius! Now’s your chance! Be bold! Be brave! Be—“

It took all of… What? Ten seconds for me to say… “Um, can I write for Star Wars?”

Do-dee-doh.

Okay, so this situation ended… poorly. I chose poorly. I had an “in” and it closed. Quickly. Why? Because I became “that fan.” I am now part of the masses, the proud and the free, who always ask the same question in the same way. And? Worse? I forgot the most important thing: this is not Timothy Zahn, the Star Wars managing editor who can get me something standing in front of me. This is Timothy Zahn, the human being.

Keep in mind, I used to interact with celebrities often via a casual photog event that I created, and I came to understand it’s a “job!” (I was also in a rock opera for two years, too!) And now, ten years later, when I had the opportunity to pitch through the appropriate channels, I did… At the same, precise moment that behind-the-scenes corporate mergers were happening. Ergo…

I’m not certain that Timothy Zahn will remember me. I tend, sadly, to have hoof-in-mouth disease. (And yes, I act like a total idiot in front of people I admire because I am trying like hell not to be “that fan.”) I may be a professional, but I still dissolved into a pile of goo when I met Harry Turtledove last August — and my default nature is extraordinarily sarcastic and pointed. So, my coping mechanism is attempting to err on the side of polite with total strangers until they’ve had enough. For the first six months I worked with Steve Jackson from Steve Jackson Games, I kept calling him “Sir,” until he told me not to.

I have never written for Star Wars. OBVIOUSLY. But? I’m now writing for Firefly and managing an entire team of people for this game. I am working with NYT best-selling author Margaret Weis. She’s edited me and I’ve done the same for her.

Today’s first lesson is: fans become professionals. My friends, this should blow your minds because this means that people, just like you, become those you most admire.

*waiting to let that sink in for a minute*

Margaret Weis… Oh, this talented lady. She’s a HUGE Firefly fan. Did you know that? Huge. There is so much love here, so much passion. But, here’s the difference between what Margaret Weis does and a regular fan. Wait for it…

Business and experience.

Margaret has been amazing to work with not because she agrees with everything I say. (She doesn’t, by the way.) But she gave me an order, a vision she had, and it’s been up to me to fulfill that based on my expertise. I check with her often, but working with me, she understands that I am doing what she asked for in the context of the business realities. I am perfectly blunt with her. I don’t tell her what she wants to hear but, at the same time, I am polite, professional as much and as often as humanly possible.

Let me repeat this, because it’s important:

    1) I don’t blow smoke up people’s bits just because that’s what they want to hear and
    2) I don’t meet people to “get” something out of them. That, my friends, happens all the time and it is [F-bomb] rude and, at times, wholly sociopathic and manipulative.

Meet people because you want to meet them, not because you’re thinking about what assets they provide. By treating professionals like human beings, you will get to know who’s who and work with the people that are a better fit for your personality and your goals. Not only will you present yourself in a way that doesn’t put folks on the defensive, you will also build longer-term relationships. You may work alone, but people in general are key to your survival as a human being and as a professional.

If you do not know what you want for your business, the best way to find out is to talk to people. Listen. Ask questions. I did! I knew [F-bomb]all about being a full-time novelist outside of my writing group and the gaming industry. Why on earth do you think I went to WorldCon? To get work? NO. To find out what being a novelist was really like by talking to different novelists. And I did. I got a damn, good picture out what the industry was like and I’ve incorporated that into my short-term and long-term plans. I also connected people I knew on an acquaintance level and sold somebody else‘s book. LMAO!

You will get the assignments you desire, you will get invitations to sell your stories, and… AND… You will wake up one day and realize you have a network of people you can talk to, ask advice from, and continue to do the work. You cannot do this if you are an asshole and if you know everything. FFS, when you’re just starting out? YOU DON’T. You cannot do this if you are desperate, either. Why? People talk. Assholes are known quantities. Desperate fans are known quantities.

Instead, the people who keep getting work, who will build a career, are the ones who know this: it takes years to build a career as a successful writer and even then success is subjective and not a guarantee. To some, I am a failure because I don’t have an original novel out and I haven’t sold the movie rights or gotten an award or am internet famous. (Accusations that have all been leveled at me, by the way.) To others, I am a success story because I keep getting work, I put out quality on time, and I get paid.

Appearances boil down to opinions. You have an opinion of yourself and that will reflect in your appearance, and will resonate throughout your business. It really is that simple. If you believe yourself to be incompetent, that’ll show. If you think you’re not qualified, that insecurity will also come across. This is not “book release jitters” by the way. Everybody gets those. This is full on “I’m not sure if I can do this!” freezy, uppy panic that prevents you from writing, revising, polishing, and selling. The hand of publishing will NOT come down and bless your brilliance. You need to make shit happen. Seriously. Those unconscious cues you’re giving off will affect how other people see you even if it’s just an e-mail.

Instead, believe that you belong where you are, that you have every right to be among those who write full-time — and then do it. This is now your job. Don’t “fake it until you make it.” FFS, I haven’t faked anything in my damn life since… Well, one day I’ll tell that story. But, not now. I was twenty-nine. There. You have a reference. “Fake it until you become it.” Or, better yet, pretend you are a very. famous. author. Adapt their habits. Do what they do, but keep yourself grounded. (When in Rome…) Some people can pull off arrogant asshole. Most can’t. New writers? Not really an option for you, because there’s plenty of shit-talkers out there. You still have to prove you can do the work and you haven’t had the chance to do that yet. Then again, I would never advocate erring on the side of asshole — that’s on the bottom, baby. That’s where people sit.

The trust Margaret has placed in me was earned, people. She may have hired me, but that didn’t mean she was going to automatically hand over the keys to her company. She didn’t. I worked my ass off (and my team’s ass off) to ensure that I over-delivered. I had MASSIVE shoes to fill, considering how much she adores Cam Banks and the volume of game books this man has put out. Still…

Business. We have certain things we have to satisfy because this is a license with 20th Century Fox. We also have certain processes we need to undertake, and I have to get books out on time. This is now on “me,” not on Cam. Meaning, I have to do the work in order to get paid. All b.s. aside, it’s back to that, to the same thing every other effing person out there is doing: writing, revising, putting shit out on time, and getting paid.

By telling you these anecdotes, I hope you’ve come to understand lesson number two. Business is not the soul-sucking corporate machine you think it is. Get that out of your head. I don’t care what you’ve been taught. I don’t care what your experiences are. If you want to truly be successful in any aspect of the creative industries, understand that fans become your boss. Business is the vehicle, the underpinnings by which YOUR stories and games are produced FOR readers, fans, etc. Business, my friends, is about building relationships with people in a manner that isn’t overly familiar or condescending.

This is why appearances matter.

Let’s talk about that. Let’s have a chat, you and I, about how appearances and demeanor really make a difference in the day-to-day. Do you think that if I was a right, foul, arrogant git that I would have gotten the jobs I did? If I got swept up in drama, gossip, rumors, if I drank and slept with people I went to cons with, that I’d have a snowball’s chance of doing what I do?

No. I get a continuous line of work because I am vigilant, but I also keep my distance. I ensure that I book work three months out, typically, and I know what words I can produce and what I can’t. I also get work for the following reasons:

    a) I can do the job in a timely fashion
    b) I am a reasonable person to work with
    c) I produce quality work
    d) I don’t overcharge
    e) I will go out of my way to make things right if I screw up
    f) I’m not an arrogant asshole
    g) I’m not desperate
    h) I’m not overly familiar with people I don’t know very well
    i) I add value because I understand business and
    j) I don’t throw a public temper tantrum if things don’t go my way.

This is why appearances matter. It’s not just about becoming “as well known as” your favorite writer, it’s about writing and revising, then selling copies of books. If getting work is about presenting yourself as a sane and reasonable human being, to make a connection where someone will either hire you (or buy your work), then selling copies of your published books is about getting readers or, in my case, readers and gamers.

That, my friends, is the other side of the appearance coin. It’s not just about how you present yourself to potential hires. It’s also about how your audience perceives and interacts with you.

Here’s a secret I learned from author Laura Anne Gilman: Anyone can be a potential reader. Think about that for a second. How does that apply to what you’re doing? If anyone can be a potential reader, then… Anyone can potentially buy your book, and that makes them a customer. Does that mean you need to shove your book down their throat? No, not at all. What this does, is give a face to your audience. It gives you the opportunity to write for someone other than yourself, your family, or your critique group. Write for that perfect stranger or ideal fan. I do! By doing so, by trying to satisfy the undefinable “them,” you won’t get caught up in personal b.s.

That’s all the time I have for today. Yesterday’s post and today’s screed should blow a lid off of any magical thinking you might have. I know this might be a lot to deal with, but the rambly-ness was important to get out there. Tomorrow, I’m going to talk about figuring out your core competency and offer you some questions.

If you have questions, post them below.

Over and out.

Business 101: Smashing Assumptions on Day One

This week, for five days or so, I’m pulling back the curtain and blogging about what you need to know from a business perspective as a new writer. I’m a little punchy, because I’ve been seeing so much b.s. not related to the nuts and bolts about the business of writing, so please forgive me if I come across as blunt and overly comma splice. These posts are not going to talk about administrative-related piecemeal crap or “theories.” This, quite frankly, is about a word I understand very well — survival. Not everybody can be a writer full-time or make a career out of it. That is totally fine. That’s why I’m blogging this week, because if you’re ready to make that decision, then these are the questions you need to ask yourself.

Today’s post is very important to understand where I’m coming from in my business philosophy. Every business has one, whether you see it or not. There is no one way to run a business and, for everything that you could be doing, there’s another example of someone who was successful doing the exact opposite. These are my opinions on the subject, and no doubt you have yours. Good. Own them, but put them into practice. Otherwise they are just theories, and thinking does you no good unless you actually go forth and do.

On to the assumption-smashing!

Agents are not satanic worshippers who sacrifice new writers at the gilded altar of publishing.

If you go the agent route, look at that person as somebody you want to enter a business relationship with. Don’t worship them. Don’t stalk them or be pushy. Don’t expect that they owe you anything, either. Listen to them. Respect them. Follow their guidelines and ask questions. At the same time, return e-mails as appropriate. You may decide not to seek out an agent and that’s okay! This is one of many business models. This does not mean you’re right and they’re bad, though. Different does NOT equal bad. Different is just different.

Publishers are not six-horned beasts with eight toes who drink your blood and suck you dry.

Publishers are business owners. Some are good at running a business; others are not. These business are large, medium, and small. To trust that the publisher will automatically do everything in your best interest is foolish. Let me be very, very clear about this: you can have faith, yes, but you cannot build a business based on your expectations about what other people should be doing for you. At the same time, being overly skeptical or nervous about basic business practices like contracts and the like will send up a red flag. When you get a book/story published, you are entering a business agreement. This is not your first born child you’re sacrificing here. This is about selling your work for money. Dinero. Soldi.

Anyone can be a writer.

I hate semantics, but I had to put this one in here. Yes, anyone can be a writer – as long as you write to get paid. Being a professional writer means that you are either providing a service, by freelancing, or you are selling your finished work to a publisher or publishing it yourself. There are multiple business models out there with a variety of levers to push and pull, but in the end: the goal is to earn money through your business either full-time or part-time.

Any model you choose or build should serve your core competency as a writer who wants “x.” That “x” could be a dollar sign or number of copies sold, but bottom line: “x” is career-related. If you’re in this for the long haul, then “x” changes. Maybe there’s a new “x”. Maybe you raise the bar or remove it completely. Either way, “x” isn’t about achieving the one goal and quitting. It’s about the milestones you achieve to build your career.

I don’t need to make money as a writer. I’m creating Art!

Okay, then. Well, you’re probably not the writer who needs to read posts about building a business. The process of creating Art is separate from selling it. If you only want to create it, that’s fine. Just don’t shit on any other writer who feels differently than you do.

Only writers who write “X” are real writers.

My answer to this statement is usually an eye roll. I’m very good at them. :-p

I can post whatever I want online and not experience any consequences.

Bullshit. Yes, it’s true: we’re all human. The more people get online, the more common certain behaviors might be, the more social pressures you’ll encounter, but silent judgments are always occurring. Never mind the legal implications of what you post online, bias is a fact of life and it’ll never go away. Posting about your long, laundry list of medical ailments, begging for money, revealing the intimate details of your sex life, always being negative and reactionary about rumors/politics/etc., attacking other writers, being so desperate for attention that you have to give us the sordid details about your personal sob story…

Folks, if I’m pissing you off, slow down for a second. People do read what you post and either stop reading or make an instant assessment about you. New writers without a proven track record are not treated or viewed the same as established writers. Do you really want to come across as someone who can’t get their shit together? If you’re applying for a day job, the answer would be: “No.” Then why the hell would you present yourself in a way that gives people a reason NOT to work with you or buy your work? If you tell people you’re broke, you come across as desperate. Then? The offers you get will be lowballed. After all, you’ll sign any deal on the dotted line. You’re broke. You’ve broadcasted that… And now you’ll continue to be so.

I wrote my first book and it’s a guaranteed best-seller. I write better than [insert famous author here] and you should be privileged to publish my masterpiece.

Let me be blunt, because if you’re reading this, you probably have dreams. So, allow me to crush them by saying one word: no.

To end today’s post, here’s a breakdown of this “No!” point-by-point.

    1) Bragging leads to buying your own bullshit. When you’ve got those blinders on, then you make really terrible decisions for yourself and your business. I’ve seen this happen all too often, sadly. Have some amount of pragmatism and find a way to remain grounded. This is not the same thing as letting success get to your head. This is full on “I’m a very successful writer” delusion territory, even though you aren’t making any money. That’s dangerous.

    2) Agents, editors, and publishers are inundated with people who make broad, sweeping claims – all of which can now be researched by a click on the internet. It’s just not possible to make shit up anymore. The rapid speed of communication and the way people are super-connected to one another, especially in this industry, means that if you talk smack you will get caught.

    3) Even if your story is that good? You still have to find a way to sell the book. If it really is that good, it’ll sell itself. Focus first on the story, not on the fact that YOU wrote the story. Marketing comes later.

    4) You will not sell every book and story you write. You cannot sell every word. At times, you will suck and you will need to revise. Own it. This is the unsexy part of being a writer.

    5) Your first book usually blows. I say “usually” because this obviously isn’t always the case. There are exceptions, but this is not the rule. Laugh. Rip it up. Delete it. (I did!) Write the next one.

    6) The only way to get better as a writer is to write, and that takes time. I’ll be talking about time this week as a stand-alone post. This one… Oh, you may not like that one in particular. But, it must be said.

    7) Success can be desired and dreamt about, but you will starve if you bank on what you haven’t sold. Pay your flipping rent and put food on your table. If you aren’t selling enough to pay rent and eat, then get a job. Your health and safety are important. You may be able to write anywhere and cheaply, without a ton of equipment, but take care of yourself. Sheesh!

    8) You cannot predict what will be popular and will go Cthulhu-crazy if you do. I’ve tried to analyze books after the fact, but that’s after the fact. BAD MONICA! See also: before I knew what the story was about, I thought 50 Shades of Gray was a book about graphic design… The moral here is: the market is unpredictable and publishers are always operating way ahead of you. The trick is to always have a polished story to sell — one that you’ve loved to write!

    9) Quality is subjective. I have unsold stories like every other writer out there. Sent a story to a publisher who has two editors. One loved it, the other hated. The “No” won out. This has happened to me twice. Besides quality, there are other factors that influence buying decisions. Good stories don’t always get published according to YOUR schedule. Sometimes, it takes a while.

    10) FFS, write like yourself. Writing like Stephen King or Nancy Collins or whomever means you’re writing like them. You’re not writing like you. Have some flipping pride in yourself and in your work. Readers will make that comparison – DON’T DO THIS TO YOURSELF. The only way you can write like you? WRITE. Just [1,000 F-bombs] write.


Boundaries and Reporting Problems at Cons

Celtic Wheel

Today, a serious matter. I am sharing a guest post from Chuck Wendig’s blog titled: “How To Report Sexual Harassment.”

The post uses a personal circumstance to offer a “how to” guide for what you should do if you have a problem at a convention. It’s a good article and I wanted to share it with you, because this is the appropriate action to take if you’ve been harassed. If you decide to properly report your situation, it should/will trigger an investigation, and much of the advice here will help bring about resolution.

Sexual harassment is a serious, legal matter, which is why I’m boosting the “how to” signal, because it’s not said often enough. You have the right to have your issues heard and addressed. This is how you do that. Then, time will tell. Legal matters, corporate processes, organizational investigations… These things don’t happen overnight. If you make a big deal out of a case prior to it being investigated, that could work against you. Seriously. E-mails? Are legal. So are Tweets and Facebook posts, people. That’s why there’s a process in place to follow up.

Thing is: if you feel what you’re saying might be inappropriate to that particular person, consider your audience. If you don’t, and you make a mistake, expect there will be consequences. Own up to them. No one has the right to just say whatever they want whenever they want to. Madness! Remember: there are lots and lots and lots of people out there who don’t like confrontation. An inquiry could happen because that person was offended and you didn’t even know it. It could also happen if you tell the person: “No, I am uncomfortable. Back off.” (Inquiries never happen if shy people don’t speak up, either. So don’t be afraid to protect yourself.)

So pros? Pay attention. This is the world we live in. If you’re not good dealing with people, and that is very, very common in the creative industries, take ownership of that. Learn. Get help. Consider it part of your job. Social skills CAN be improved, but if/when you’re in the spotlight, you should expect that people WILL criticize you moreso than somebody who isn’t. This is me saying I feel that: “When you’re in a position of power, that comes with a certain amount of social responsibility attached.” You don’t get a “get out of jail free pass” because of the position that you’re in.

Here’s how I deal with people: I don’t show “me me” unless I really know somebody. That means my friendship/acquaintance cycle is probably longer than most. It takes a long while for me to open up. If it seems like I do? I’m probably not. Onions have layers, yo. That’s my built-in mechanism to ensure that I am respecting people and that I will be in return. Why? Because I understand that people have key word here—-> boundaries and that I might come across as being abrasive. Different people have different boundaries. To get along with people, to not piss them off or be jerks or offend or whatever? Respect them like an adult. It’s as simple as that.

Does that mean I should automagically run away from people? That I’m inherently broken or wrong? NO. All I’m saying is that when you deal with social situations, err on the side of professionalism. That’s all. I’m not going to change who I am for anybody, but I am going to be respectful of new people (ergo: why I’m shy) when I meet them for the first time. Crack a bad joke to one person and they’ll laugh. Crack a bad joke to another and they’ll cry. It’s just that simple. Even within the realm of “bad behavior” there are different boundaries on what people find acceptable and what they don’t. That’s part of the reason why I try and stay out of internet kerfluffles. I am so disconnected from what happens at these places that reading blog posts on the internet doesn’t give me the full picture. I learned that working behind-the-scenes with so many people, so many companies. Rumors you hear about folks are really hit-or-miss. I could spend all my time just proving/disproving those, and I just don’t have that kind of time.

To me, when these things happen, and they do often and daily, if you consider it harassment then in my mind this is the ideal and most professional response: report it, trigger an investigation, and move towards resolution. This is how shit gets done and really, I applaud the action because it means that the “r” word I prefer, resolution, will happen for the individuals involved.

I posted this in a comment on a Facebook thread, but I do feel it bears repeating, so here goes:

“There are a lot of conventions without clear policies in place, which I’m sure is the underlying reason why people take to the internet to report what has happened. I get that. I understand the need to do it. And I’m not saying that it’s “right” or “wrong.” But, social pressures via the internet don’t always reach the right ears in order to have a situation addressed and investigated. The situation gets exacerbated when other people who weren’t present chime in and speculate. It’s impossible for HR to follow up then, which they would have to, because sexual harassment is actionable in a court of law. It can also lead to termination, and companies can get sued for wrongful cases. There needs to be a clear trail of events in order for appropriate actions to be taken that doesn’t boil down to a pile of updates on the internet. So, if it makes somebody feel that uncomfortable, then yes… Absolutely… Report it, but be smart about how you’re doing it.”

Remember this, though. I feel that if you are offended because something happened to you, regardless of what that was about, your feelings are personal and unique to you. If you are offended, then you are. No one can take moment away from you or rationalize that out of existence. I believe, with all my heart, that feelings are never wrong. We may make mistakes. We may read into things. We may misinterpret situations. But feelings? You have them. You have them in response to your thoughts, your experiences. They’re not bad, they are a part of you. If you truly feel offended or uncomfortable, if you firmly believe you’ve been sexually harassed, then get help. See things through to resolution. Just be prepared, that you may have to follow a specific set of steps or deal with the situation over a longer period of time.

There are a couple of things I need to say as a response to this: I know where the event took place, was at the con, recognize the person accused (and his wife) as an acquaintance, and I live in Madison. But, that’s the end of it. Does this mean I’ll never speak to this person again? No, but it does mean I’ll be more aware in the future.

I feel like I had to say that, because I am often disconnected from community-related events, and… in many ways… I’m very new to the science fiction and fantasy community. I really don’t feel like I’ve gotten to know enough people on the “me me” level, and that makes me a bit self-conscious given my outrageous personality. :-p (I am NOT new to conventions, by the way. Ten years on the pro side and counting.) Doesn’t matter what I have out. Publishing is about people and I know full well how I come across (e.g. bull in a china shop), so I’m very careful about when I’m “me me” and when I’m “pro me.” Recently, I’ve teetered into “me me” land, but I often err on the side of professionalism.

    Mood: What happened to this week, anyway?
    Caffeinated Beverages Consumed: Switching off of soda suuuuccckkkkksssss.
    Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: A lot of activity. So much, today I’m sore.
    In My Ears: GTalk blips and boops.
    Game Last Played: Final Fantasy XIII
    Book Last Read: Paranormal Great Lakes: an Encyclopedia
    Movie Last Viewed: The Mummy
    Latest Artistic Project: *Still* *still* *still* need to take pictures…
    Latest Release: “The Button” We Are Dust anthology and for gaming, a fun Scion: Extras (Supplemental Yet Can Be Somewhat Useful On Occasion Scions)


My “You Pick” Reading at CONvergence

On Saturday, July 6th, I will have a reading at 7:00pm during CONvergence. Will there be tears of blood? Sadly, my reading has to err on the hygenic side, so the answer to that is “No.”

However, I can do one better. You get to pick what I read. Here are the stories I’ll have on hand:

We Are Dust apocalyptic anthology

“The Button” – a Lovecraftian apocalyptic tale that fans voted me to write. It’s about a scientist who must make a terrifying choice as the end slithers ever closer.

The New Hero

“Fangs and Formaldehyde” – a vampire noir tale set in Las Vegas starring Atlas, an iconic character who helps other vampires. Somebody is hunting down other bloodstalkers. Who? And, more importantly… Why?

Don't Read This Book an anthology for Don't Rest Your Head

“Don’t Ignore Your Dead” – a very sad and sordid tale about one woman who is unable to let go of her guilt and get a good night’s sleep

OR…

???MYSTERY TALE???

An original story, un-named, never before been published… For your ears only…

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