From the Ferrett

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My friend, Ferrett Steinmetz, has some words of wisdom on his blog today. (Linking to this does have a somewhat not-so-hidden agenda, in the form of high praise, for the Ferrett has sold a novel! Huzzah!)

There’s a common sentiment that goes, “Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission” – generally trotted out when someone’s been hurt by a mean thing that someone said.

The idea, I believe, is that we are all rational, robot-like beings who can control our emotions – and thus if we get upset by someone’s assholic statements, we have chosen to be upset. We could have shrugged it off instead.

Problem is, people don’t work that way. — The Myth of Nobody Can Make You Feel Bad Without Your Permission

Say it with me: resiliency is a learned skill.

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    Work-Out Minutes Logged Yesterday: GORRAMN IT ALL.
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    What I’m Working On: Primarily tie-in games work and novels.



Monica Valentinelli is an author, artist, and narrative designer who writes about magic, mystery, and mayhem. Her portfolio includes stories, games, comics, essays, and pop culture books.

In addition to her own worlds, she has worked on a number of different properties including Vampire: the Masquerade, Shadowrun, Hunter: the Vigil, Brandon Sanderson’s Mistborn, and Robert E. Howard’s Conan.

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