Day 17 of 100: Dust Bunnies in a Silent Cone

I’m a happy girl today. I’ve been looking for a way to legally watch Red Dwarf again for a while now and Netflix offers all nine seasons for streaming. So, yay! *bounce bounce*

And a tenth season! Double yay!

Since the episodes are super short, I can put them on in the background. “Appreciate what you’ve got. Because basically, I’m fantastic.”

This news counteracts the pain…the suffering…the millions of dust bunnies crying out in fear…

Yep. I’m in the middle of spring cleaning. Only it’s snowing outside. So I’m late Winter cleaning. Oh, and organizing. And planning. And planting.

Which, no doubt, requires looking things up. What to save. What to toss. How to follow directions.

Some of the more unusual things I’ve discovered, besides the pile of floppy disks I have no way of reading, is my fascination with particular objects I have to buy more than one of. Blank journal and small notepads are at the top of that list; pens and other unusual writing implements are right up there as well. Next comes the obligatory “What did I buy this for again?” With a look of confusion and wonderment.

I feel like I’ve been getting more done because on my writing breaks, instead of hopping on Twitter or Facebook for seconds at a time, I’m focusing for longer periods of time. Once I’m at a natural break, I can then attack my dust bunnies vigorously. I’ve even gone so far as to (shockingly) label boxes so I know what I organized. Other than the mountain of paperwork crawling up through the bowels of our house. Eesh. Paperwork. The worst part is that I know I have file folders lying around somewhere, I just can’t figure out where they are.

Now that I’ve been off social media for over two weeks, I can definitely say if I ever want a break from the noise, ten days is about the time when I stop feeling so inundated with information. Now that it’s been over two weeks, I feel like I’m in a cone of silence. Have no idea what’s going on–especially with some of my friends overseas–and feel like it’s impossible to find out without hopping back on. I can remember Twitter handles and Facebook identities, but not people’s websites.

When I read something people shared, I never paid attention to where I was reading the information, just what the content was. To me, that’s pretty significant. With all of this information being thrown at us, how much do we retain? What can we remember?

And more importantly, what should we remember? What’s missing?

100 Day Experiment: Turning the Lights Off on Social Media

I don’t know about you, but lately I feel like I’ve been a little scattered. There’s always something shiny and new online, and there’s no better way to see, hear and share those new and shiny things than through Facebook and Twitter. That’s when I realized: I’m checking Facebook and Twitter before I open up my e-mail. I’m not reading through a website anymore, I’m scanning a headline or a link and making snap judgments. When the political unrest happened here, I spent more time on these interfaces, too. When I had a new release? Same story. I’ve been glued to my computer screen watching reader reactions to Paths of Storytelling for Vampire: the Masquerade.

Light Bulb | Taken by Buckey at sxc.huLately, I feel I’ve been getting news poisoning more easily and I’ve been moodier than usual. (Incidentally, news poisoning is my definition for what happens when people’s moods shift from upbeat to negative after hearing so much bad news.) I hear about all the things going wrong with the world — earthquakes, floods, rebellions, etc. — and I wonder what I (or anyone else, for that matter) can do. It’s overwhelming.

Add any positive news, book releases, business offers, or whatever else on top of that and I head straight into information overload. Now, it’s not: “Hey, social media is this fun thing that allows me to share news and connect with people.” It feels like either I’m connected or I miss out. If I log-in just one day late, I’m obviously not paying attention.

The analyst in me also recognizes that social media, especially when coupled with web analytics, has a built-in reward system. I see instant feedback: traffic, likes, comments, RTs, shares. I see instant validation. But to what end? Well, that’s what I want to find out.

So, I decided to try an experiment that was limited in its scope and manageable on my end. Here’s what I’ve come up with:

Rules for the 100 Days Experiment

    Go Dark on Social and IM – No Twitter, no Facebook, no GTalk or Skype unless used for business purposes. My blog and FlamesRising.com automatically feed to my Twitter account, so for all intents and purposes my account will remain active. Same thing with Facebook. I recently bit the bullet and created a Monica Valentinelli on Facebook author page that’s public and assigned an Admin. So, people can still follow my work without me having to log in and approve them as my FB friends.

    Avoid Analytics for Personal Use – Web traffic, sales data, etc. can be its own distraction because it is, in a sense, validation for my efforts. For this 100 days? I don’t want to know how many followers I have, where my work ranks on the various sales lists or how many friends on Facebook are commenting. I am not going to watch what happens to my blog, newsletter or RSS feed traffic either. I’m simply going to shut off the “rewards” until all this is over.

    Focus on Creation and Maintenance, not Consumption – If I want to be an author and sell books, then I need to put most of my efforts into the content creation, rather than the consumption, category. As a creator, I already don’t watch a lot of television. For this jaunt, though, I’m going to limit visual media (video games, movies, TV); I won’t have it on while I’m working and will only use it when I’m taking a break. I’ll probably explore this further in an upcoming post. I’m also going to put more work into my blog. Part of my reasoning behind this is explained below; the other part is that I own this website. I don’t “own” Twitter or Facebook which, for a writer, is dangerous.

    Utilize my Blog for Accountability – One of the things that’s worked for me in the past, is to have a mini-goal that serves the purpose of accountability. Did I create that day? If I force myself to report my creative activities and personal goals, then I’m going to accomplish them because someone on the other end of the line will hold me to it. In my experiences, the best way to achieve this would be to blog more frequently than I have been. After going back-and-forth, comments will be open and moderated. If you want to, you will be able to read about my observations. It won’t all be serious, I’m sure.

    These Rules are for Personal Use – If a widget is broken and I need to test it? If a company throws millions of dollars at me and I need to engage? If a gaming company or publisher asks me to do a scheduled chat? The idea of a hundred days is for my personal, rather than professional, use. Otherwise it will hinder–rather than free–me. Can’t have that happen.

    Rely on E-mail to Communicate – Often, people will talk to me about a review on Twitter or ask me for a favor on Facebook. While I’m happy to oblige and help out where I can, because we’re all just slogs here, I feel this is also contributing to my information overload. To be clear: it’s not that I feel anyone is doing anything wrong, this may be part of my desire to be connected and never take a break.

    E-mail is more manageable for me because of the way that I organize it. So, for this 100 days I’m opting to use that as my primary form of internet communication again.

What’s freaking me out a little, is that on the internet? A hundred days is a long, long time. If seven years on the internet take place for every one year in real life, then this experience will be the equivalent of two and a half online years of reduced interaction. I have absolutely no idea what, if any, effect this will have on my online reputation or presence. I’m a little worried that I’m going to fall back into obscurity, since I’ve made several new personal and professional connections through social media, but the only way to know for sure is to experiment. So, I guess the appropriate thing to say is… Wish me luck!

The 100 days begins on Monday, April 4th, 2011 and ends on Wednesday, July 13th, 2011.

Writers: This is Not the Pyramid Scheme You’re Hoping For

I’m a writer. Always have been. Always will be. I’m also a writer who wants to work on a project that will hopefully attract new readers and get paid. Sometimes that works out. Sometimes that doesn’t.

Like everyone else, I too dream of “making it big.” But what does that mean, anyway? Let’s say the hand of publishing blessed me and I made millions on a book. What then? Would I stop writing?

No.

What happens if I didn’t sell as many copies as I thought I did. Would I stop writing?

No.

If tomorrow, an EMP destroyed the entire internet and all my digital files, would I stop writing?

No.

If some reader publicly came out and said “Gee, I don’t like any of the other books in your series besides the first one, so stop writing.” Would I listen?

Yeah, not a chance.

I write because I love it and I’m trying like hell to make an honest living from my words.

The thing is, the publishing industry has always been in flux. For as long as I can remember, there’s always been some kerfluffle or another. We’re seeing it and hearing more about it now because that’s what the internet does — highlights micro-and-macro trends as they happen. Yes, what’s happening now is a big deal for the industry. Bookstores are going out of business. e-Readers are changing their buying habits. Advances are changing. Prices are all over the map. Self-publishing is less and less of a stigma. But it won’t getting sorted out by the end of this year. Chances are, it will take five, ten or twenty years for the dust to truly settle before there’s any sort of a baseline trend. Even after everything stabilizes, there will always be an anomaly. There will always be change. Adapt or don’t.

So why then, are so many writers freaking out? Well, here’s the thing: we all want a guarantee that we’re going to be successful… Only there is NO guarantee… And that’s where people get a little nutty about this stuff. I often imagine an author sitting at his (or her) keyboard with a calculator figuring out ye olde writing algorithm to scale the proverbial publishing pyramid. Make the rounds at small presses? Check. Sell 20 short stories? Check. Get an agent? Check. Don’t forget to level up! Overnight publishing success? Of course!

But being a successful writer isn’t a zero sum game. You don’t get 1,000 readers who will only read your work and no one else’s. You don’t forgo small presses and self-publishing because they’re so much worse off than the larger houses. You make choices that work for you. Period. If self-publishing works for you? Then do it. If you’re happy going through a small press? Then okay! Trying to get an agent? Go you.

Hopefully, you make informed choices based on what you want to earn, how much time is required, etc. Even then, you have to realize you’re going to screw up. And that’s okay, too! If you’re in it for the long haul, like I am, then persistence is key. Just say it with me: money flows to the writer…

Here’s what I focus on: writing. And then? Selling my work. If that doesn’t pan out? I pitch. You know, for more writing. To sell. That’s it. Maybe go to a con or two. As my readership increases, my tune may change to include more appearances, but right now that’s what I’m focusing on.

Am I worried about what the future will bring? Yeah, but worrying about writing and actually sitting down and writing are two, very different things. I can whine about wanting to be a popular and successful author all I want, but if I have nothing for people to read… Well, I guess I can keep whining. For a different reason. As in: What was I thinking?

Oh, I suppose I should remember to have fun. If I’m not doing that, then why am I writing again?

Will Hindmarch, an Author’s Hidden Enemy and the Solution

If you’re an author, you know that there’s a lot of things we have to deal with that fall outside of our craft. One of those things is our hidden enemy: bitterness.

The BonesYesterday, I was replying to Will Hindmarch on Twitter about the topic. If you don’t know Will, he worked for White Wolf as the developer for Vampire: the Requiem. In fact, it was his design of Scenes of Frenzy that served as the template for my newly-released Scenes of the Embrace.

Besides being a talented developer, he’s also an author, a graphic designer and one of the owners of GamePlayWright. Will and I worked together on The Bones which is pictured at left; his style of editing taught me an important lesson. Track your research thoroughly whenever possible, just in case a need for citation comes up, even if it’s for a specific word. Otherwise, you’ll be scratching your head. A lot.

Anyway, now you know who Will Hindmarch is. So back to the quote at hand. Here’s what I said to him.

A writer’s worst enemy is being consumed from bitterness not by what we haven’t done, but what someone else has.

Can’t tell you how many times I’ve run into this. The first experience I had with interacting with other authors online was on a message board. Can’t remember the author’s name, but I do remember his piss poor attitude. At the time, he published a series of books over twenty years ago. Hadn’t published anything since. He was so negative and pervasive in his attitude toward other people, telling them they would never be successful. The guy had more experience than we did, yet he was focused on telling us what we didn’t have and why we’d never make, because he never did.

Mind you, I’ve learned there will always be someone more experienced than you and more successful than you are. The reverse is also true. I’ve had people tell me I’m not a real author because I haven’t been published by one of the big guys; I’ve also had authors say they wish they had my background.

Hand of PublishingSo what do you do when you feel bitterness seeping into your bones? You write more, dammit. No seriously. You drop what you’re doing and you work your ass off. You’re never going to get anywhere unless you put your fingers on your keyboard and write another story. Then you submit it. Then you work on the next one. And so on.

That’s it, people. ‘Cause there is no hand of publishing that will magically reach out of the sky and deem you worthy. If one story isn’t successful, you gotta suck it up and work on another one. In this business, success is relative and it’s not a guarantee. Am I saying that to sound negative? Nope. That’s the reality of publishing.

If you’re still stuck, read The Cult of Done Manifesto and then…

Get your butt back to work!!!

25 Mantras on Writing and Professionalism

As a follow-up to my previous post about “bad news,” I decided to write my thoughts on what I feel it means to be a professional writer. You may disagree with me, and that’s okay. I firmly believe that your path is not the same as mine. Take what you want and leave the rest.

    1. Any advice, news, tools, or people that distract you from getting words down on the page is not valuable to you as a writer, regardless of how positive or uplifting you feel afterward.
    2. Having a writer’s platform is meaningless if you don’t have any readers, because your brand’s awareness does not always equate to sales.
    3. Avoid any bandwagon that declares publishers or retailers are bad or evil.
    4. Know your own worth but be realistic about it.
    5. Learn the tools, but don’t make your platform your primary focus if you have nothing to sell.
    6. Don’t quit your day job. Don’t quit your day job. Don’t quit your day job.
    7. If you submit a story, pitch or job application, don’t wait to hear back before starting on the next one.
    8. Respect and support other writers that are more experienced that you are.
    9. Writing is NOT a competition. What (or who) one reader or employer likes is going to be very different from someone else. Sometimes, you aren’t a good fit for the job. Sometimes, an employer doesn’t want to re-train a new writer to work with them. There’s a lot of slots to fill; find the ones that work for you and keep looking.
    10. Understand that some people will be happy for your success and some people won’t. Learn to tell the difference and distance yourself from those who are jealous or are willing to sabotage you.
    11. Don’t talk shit or make boasts you can’t back up. You never know how that will come back and haunt you — until it does.
    12. Remember that there are misconceptions about writers and, in some cases, there is nothing you can do about it.
    13. Know that success is relative. One writer’s accomplishments are not your successes, so quit worrying about what someone else is doing. Their “greatness” doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
    14. It’s okay to have a bad day! Experience that bad day, then get over it and get back to work.
    15. If you are a writer, be flexible but write what you’re interested in and work for the people you have a good relationship with. Do not become a slave to your job.
    16. If you can’t afford to be a full-time writer, explore your options and find a part-time job or something else to do. Being a poor artist isn’t virtuous or ideal — it sucks.
    17. Always keep an eye out for new jobs or opportunities and network, network, network.
    18. Don’t be afraid to say “No” when you need to.
    19. Resign yourself to the fact that you may never be as popular or wealthy as Steven King. The, focus on the readers that you DO have.
    20. Learn how to resolve interpersonal conflicts and identify people who can’t. If you wind up on the receiving end of something like this and your assignment/job/project is affected, know that even though it might feel like a personal attack, it’s more of a reflection on the person who can’t resolve the conflict.
    21. Get it in writing.
    22. Realize that you are not a machine. Some days you’ll write faster than others.
    23. Recognize that everyone functions differently and cultural nuances affect not only how people work, but how they respond to people and what they do at work, too. If someone doesn’t get back to you right away, it’s not because they’re ignoring you.
    24. Understand that your rejection letters may not have anything to do with the quality of your work or “you” as a person. Don’t take them personally.
    25. Keep up-to-date on technology and don’t be afraid to learn new things that make you more marketable.
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